My weekend with the father-in-law has passed, and I could not be happier to finally have MY family back to a somewhat state of normalcy. All in all, the visit was good and as expected. KK's relationship with his father is an interesting one as his father left when Kris was 8 and has not really made an effort until about 5 years ago to keep a regular part of his life. It is so strange for me because my family is so close and it was downright painful at times to struggle through conversations with a man we really don't know that well on a daily basis.
...Not to mention KK's dad is a hippie of types that believes in many conspiracy theories, which is just weird in itself... but he did really good with Missy Pants and was happy to be spending time with us- so it was good, but I'm hoping with all hope that it does not have to reoccur again within the next year (or ever- hehe).
The bright side of my weekend was that I did attend a neighborhood Bunco night-the first of monthly meetings among the ladies of my neighborhood. I live in a relatively new phase of my sub division, so all of us ladies have moved in around the same time. It was really nice to make those connections and have other mothers that I can depend on if I need a quick babysitter or to borrow a cup of sugar. I'm really looking forward to getting to know them better and having a fun place to live and for my daughter to grow up in.
Other than that, life around our house is settling back into a routine. KK started coaching basketball last week, so Missy Pants and are have afternoons together, which is kind of fun and relaxing. She is changing so much almost on a daily basis- it is amazing to see her personality come out!
I also put my foot down as far as KK's mother is concerned and told him it was appropriate to let her know that we are busy people and that weekends would work best for her oh-so-fun visits over to the house. Hopefully he follows through on this or he will have a not-so-happy wife to live with... and I can be downright nasty if I want to!
Thank you so much to all of you who left me kind messages of support to get me through the last couple of weeks! I love my bloggie buddies sooo much ! xoxoxoxo
Tuesday, November 18, 2008
Sunday, November 16, 2008
Friday, November 14, 2008
It gets worse
Kris's dad made it here last night... and announced he is not heading back home until MONDAY morning. That means our entire weekend will be devoted to entertaining our guest. That also means no time to just relax and reconnect with my family. You do not know how much I was looking forward to having Sunday afternoon to just be us.
I know Kris has a weird relationship with his dad and they are not close enough to really talk and be comfortable around each other, but I wish he could just ask him to leave on Sunday instead!
I really feel depressed. I have so much that I want to talk to my husband about, and there is virtually no alone time with his dad around. We have not had a moment's time alone- he got home Wednesday and was so rushed in trying to get his school stuff done and get settled back in before his dad's arrival that we ended up asleep at 7:45 without barely getting a chance to speak.
And I'm sure his crazy mom will have to be over at our house the second his dad leaves.. plus Kris is now in basketball season and will be at practices and then games until March... it's ridiculous.
OH and did I mention I have a terrible cold and my sinuses are so congested ? I can feel it in my gums (seriously) and I'm achy all over. I think Ali is getting sick again too- she woke up from last night's sleep throwing up- fabulous. All that I want to do when I get home is sleep.. not going to happen because the man has no experience with babies besides Kris and is not comfortable with Ali alone...
It's just so hard because Kris's dad really is a nice guy,and this is the only time he has ever seen Ali- but he has not concept of the fact that our family has not been OUR family in over a week. Did I mention that he invited someof his friends over to our house on Saturday? Yeah- so we get to entertain more people that we hardly know! It keeps getting better and better.
I really do not know how I'm going to make it through with a positive attitude. I know that in the whole scheme of things it will not be a big deal...
But I still feel like at any moment I could just crumble.
And my ignorant husband has no clue.
I know Kris has a weird relationship with his dad and they are not close enough to really talk and be comfortable around each other, but I wish he could just ask him to leave on Sunday instead!
I really feel depressed. I have so much that I want to talk to my husband about, and there is virtually no alone time with his dad around. We have not had a moment's time alone- he got home Wednesday and was so rushed in trying to get his school stuff done and get settled back in before his dad's arrival that we ended up asleep at 7:45 without barely getting a chance to speak.
And I'm sure his crazy mom will have to be over at our house the second his dad leaves.. plus Kris is now in basketball season and will be at practices and then games until March... it's ridiculous.
OH and did I mention I have a terrible cold and my sinuses are so congested ? I can feel it in my gums (seriously) and I'm achy all over. I think Ali is getting sick again too- she woke up from last night's sleep throwing up- fabulous. All that I want to do when I get home is sleep.. not going to happen because the man has no experience with babies besides Kris and is not comfortable with Ali alone...
It's just so hard because Kris's dad really is a nice guy,and this is the only time he has ever seen Ali- but he has not concept of the fact that our family has not been OUR family in over a week. Did I mention that he invited someof his friends over to our house on Saturday? Yeah- so we get to entertain more people that we hardly know! It keeps getting better and better.
I really do not know how I'm going to make it through with a positive attitude. I know that in the whole scheme of things it will not be a big deal...
But I still feel like at any moment I could just crumble.
And my ignorant husband has no clue.
Monday, November 10, 2008
Why me?
So the weekend went pretty good considering my husband it out of town and I'm doing everything on my own. Taking care of Ali is the easy part. Trying to get everything ready for Kris's dad to come on Thursday has been a bit annoying.
Here is what's annoying: Kris is home Wednesday, his dad comes to visit Thursday, and will be here until Sunday. Kris starts coaching basketball Friday, so he won't even be home until 6 that night, and then he will be gone again Saturday morning until noon. So I get to entertain his dad, by myself, for a rough total of 9 hours. Not to mention this will be the 2nd weekend in a row that Kris and I don't really get to hang together.
Also, Kris has a crazy mother. Seriously, she is not normal by any stretch of the imagination. She lives here in town, and her story would take me an entire book to write, and I just don't have that kind of time and energy- so you get the short version. His mother used to be an alchoholic, until this summer when she had a crazy meltdown and we had to do an intervention. The woman has never been normal since I met her- she is a terrible house keeper and does not take care of herself: she doesn't even comb the back of her hair! She is 62 years old and looks and acts 80, it's amazing. I also harbor a lot of anger toward her because she was a horrible parent to my husband. He barely talks about his childhood, but from what I do know she never spent time with him or cared what he was doing.. just wanted him to get out of the house so she could drink or do whatever it was she did.
P.S. She's totally high maintainance.
So anyway, she stopped drinking over the summer, (which was fun to deal with when I was 8 months pregnant, by the way) and is now sober and more annoying then ever. She finds it necessary to come over to our house once a week to "see the baby." By "see the baby" I mean sit on our couch for 20 minutes without holding Missy Pants and then leaving the minute Missy starts to fuss or cry. She always comes at the worse time, usually right before dinner, and totally interrupts my day. She has nothing to talk about because she does nothing with herself all day.. and I don't feel sorry for her because she is totally capable. It is such an interruption to what I'm trying to do- between working and trying to wind down and get the Missy Pants all settled in the evening, the last thing I want to worry about is having her come over! I've talked to my husband about it a million times, but he thinks it is a good thing that she is getting out and being social. ArGhhhh!!! It's making me crazy!
So she calls me today and wants to see if Missy Pants and I are handling everything alright since Kris is gone- yeah, like she has any idea... and I tell her how stressed I am about getting the house cleaned and all my extra work done from school before Kris's dad comes and she says- oh OK, well I'll stop by tomorrow sometime to see the baby. What!? Are you kidding me!? Did she really just TELL me she was going to ruin my day tomorrow and come over!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I'm so annoyed! And I want to kill my husband even more now!
I don't even know how to handle it or what to say to him- it is excessive that she comes over once a week. And there is no purpose to it except maybe in her demented mind makes her feel wanted or useful and probably gives her something to do to get out of the house. But really, how long will this go on? I'm sure I could handle her a lot more if she would just give us space! Ahhhhhhh, I think I'm going crazy!
Here is what's annoying: Kris is home Wednesday, his dad comes to visit Thursday, and will be here until Sunday. Kris starts coaching basketball Friday, so he won't even be home until 6 that night, and then he will be gone again Saturday morning until noon. So I get to entertain his dad, by myself, for a rough total of 9 hours. Not to mention this will be the 2nd weekend in a row that Kris and I don't really get to hang together.
Also, Kris has a crazy mother. Seriously, she is not normal by any stretch of the imagination. She lives here in town, and her story would take me an entire book to write, and I just don't have that kind of time and energy- so you get the short version. His mother used to be an alchoholic, until this summer when she had a crazy meltdown and we had to do an intervention. The woman has never been normal since I met her- she is a terrible house keeper and does not take care of herself: she doesn't even comb the back of her hair! She is 62 years old and looks and acts 80, it's amazing. I also harbor a lot of anger toward her because she was a horrible parent to my husband. He barely talks about his childhood, but from what I do know she never spent time with him or cared what he was doing.. just wanted him to get out of the house so she could drink or do whatever it was she did.
P.S. She's totally high maintainance.
So anyway, she stopped drinking over the summer, (which was fun to deal with when I was 8 months pregnant, by the way) and is now sober and more annoying then ever. She finds it necessary to come over to our house once a week to "see the baby." By "see the baby" I mean sit on our couch for 20 minutes without holding Missy Pants and then leaving the minute Missy starts to fuss or cry. She always comes at the worse time, usually right before dinner, and totally interrupts my day. She has nothing to talk about because she does nothing with herself all day.. and I don't feel sorry for her because she is totally capable. It is such an interruption to what I'm trying to do- between working and trying to wind down and get the Missy Pants all settled in the evening, the last thing I want to worry about is having her come over! I've talked to my husband about it a million times, but he thinks it is a good thing that she is getting out and being social. ArGhhhh!!! It's making me crazy!
So she calls me today and wants to see if Missy Pants and I are handling everything alright since Kris is gone- yeah, like she has any idea... and I tell her how stressed I am about getting the house cleaned and all my extra work done from school before Kris's dad comes and she says- oh OK, well I'll stop by tomorrow sometime to see the baby. What!? Are you kidding me!? Did she really just TELL me she was going to ruin my day tomorrow and come over!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I'm so annoyed! And I want to kill my husband even more now!
I don't even know how to handle it or what to say to him- it is excessive that she comes over once a week. And there is no purpose to it except maybe in her demented mind makes her feel wanted or useful and probably gives her something to do to get out of the house. But really, how long will this go on? I'm sure I could handle her a lot more if she would just give us space! Ahhhhhhh, I think I'm going crazy!
Saturday, November 8, 2008
Just Us Girls
The hubster went outta town this morning until Wednesday... to a hunting trip in South Dakota (that was the subject of a huge fight, considering our current financial situation- which is all I'm going to say about that for now).
SO anywayz... Missy Pants and Mommy are on their own for the next 5 days! Usually I am happy for KK to get outta the house for awhile- it gives me a chance to regroup and get stuff done without someone bothering me... but this time- this 1st time he's left me since our girl was born- I had a really hard time.
I really need him: I need his help with the baby, and I need his support. Now that we have another little being depending on us to care for her 24/7, I could not imagine doing it on my own.
I guess I learned this morning that even though my hubs annoys the crap out of me most of the time, I still really depend on him and am so thankful that he is in my life.
He really is a good guy- a good partner, friend, and daddy.
We're working on becoming smarter spenders as a family- this trip he is on really opened his eyes as to how much our(his) lives have changed since having our baby, and I think that we are going to see an upswing in how and where we (him) spends our money.
So back to just me and Ali for 5 days- I'm planning to clean this house, relax a lot, cuddle cuddle cuddle with my little lovie bug, and also hang out with my momma and poppa :) Grammie is coming over to spend the night with us on Sunday night so she can watch our Missy Pants on Monday- and Granpa is coming over to hang with us for a bit today! I'm excited because I want to get some pics of the G-paws holding Missy Pants- I'm going to make a calender for them "12 Months of Ali" for Christmas!
Ok- we're off to bath time! Have a good weekend everybody!
Wednesday, November 5, 2008
Rock the Vote
I voted yesterday and was VERY happy to see the outcome of the election. I went to bed feeling hopeful for the America that my daughter will be raised in- something I have not felt in recent years. One thing is for sure, it will be a lot different then the White America I was raised in!
As a public educator, I am also anxious to see how and what sanctions change in the education realm and what the impact will be: I have yet to "work" for a Democratic President.. and I am hopeful that my job will become less about test scores and more about helping children grow as individuals as well as get a good education.
I am not a very political person and avoid social debates at all cost.. it just isn't that conducive to me to have to defend my position or get all fired up over politics, and I am respectful and so thankful that we live in a country that allows people to hold their own beliefs and viewpoints. My desire for the coming years is to see a better economy and country... one that I can be proud to call my home.
Saturday, November 1, 2008
Happy Halloween
Since Missy Pants is so little we decided not to dress her up in a costume this year.. and put in her some cute clothes instead!
Daddy had to be at the football game at the high school, so instead of trying to hand out candy by myself (along with a 2 month old and 2 overly-friendly dogs), I went over to my mom and dad's to relax and hang out. We had garlic-chicken pizza and ate all the Halloween candy she had bought (they only got 2 trick-or-treaters the whole night!). I then snuck home around 8:00 and ba-hum-bugged it upstairs in my bedroom with all the lights turned off... hey, I really wanted to get some sleep and there were 5 gillion kids running around my neighborhood- that's a lot of candy!
Even though Missy Pants has been letting us sleep a good 8 hours the past 3 days, I still find myself just drained when I get home from work. Last night I finally felt like I caught up on my sleep, and today I feel so much more positive and refreshed: it really is amazing what a good night's sleep can do for you!
It is also an amazing start to your day when you wake up to your daughter cooing in her bed, and she flashes you a gigantic smile when you say good morning :)
Daddy had to be at the football game at the high school, so instead of trying to hand out candy by myself (along with a 2 month old and 2 overly-friendly dogs), I went over to my mom and dad's to relax and hang out. We had garlic-chicken pizza and ate all the Halloween candy she had bought (they only got 2 trick-or-treaters the whole night!). I then snuck home around 8:00 and ba-hum-bugged it upstairs in my bedroom with all the lights turned off... hey, I really wanted to get some sleep and there were 5 gillion kids running around my neighborhood- that's a lot of candy!
Even though Missy Pants has been letting us sleep a good 8 hours the past 3 days, I still find myself just drained when I get home from work. Last night I finally felt like I caught up on my sleep, and today I feel so much more positive and refreshed: it really is amazing what a good night's sleep can do for you!
It is also an amazing start to your day when you wake up to your daughter cooing in her bed, and she flashes you a gigantic smile when you say good morning :)
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